Are you REALLY meant to be?
You know you’re crazy about him, but even if you’re madly in love you still may have some doubts about whether the two of you, as a couple, are actually meant to be. Sure, everything feels perfect right now, but how do you know you’ll feel the same way in a year, in ten years, in your lifetime?
How do you know what you have is the real thing?
While it’s good to keep your eyes wide open for warning signs and red flags, it’s also important that couples pay close attention to the positive things going on in their relationship. That way, they can learn to appreciate what they’ve got going for them and nurture it.
Deciding if you’re ready to really commit to someone is a deeply personal determination, and everyone has different criteria for determining whether their relationship is meant to be. As in any verdict, you have to start by assessing the evidence.
With that in mind, we’ve come up with 15 sure-fire signs that the someone special you’re dating just might be your soul mate.
You don’t have to check off every single of these points to be sure you’ve found “Mr. Right,” but if you can say yes to quite a few, then we feel pretty safe saying that you’ve found someone very special you might want to keep around.
- You tell him things you don’t tell anyone else.
We don’t mean blurting something out after you’ve had too much merlot, but the desire to tell him intimate details about your life means you trust him — a major component of successful long-term love.
- You let him see you in moments of weakness.
It’s easy to be happy with someone when you’re feeling good about life. But what about when you’re not doing so well? Do you want to see him when you’ve been denied a raise, or your cat died or you had a plain old bad day? He should be a comfort during tough times, not a burden.
- You respect him.
You don’t want to change the essence of who he is. There may be stuff that irritates you in everyday life — he insists on wearing his favorite, holey t-shirt, he eats sugar cereal for dinner, he still watches Saturday morning cartoons — but you like him, plain and simple.
- You want him to meet your parents.
You feel proud of him and you want to show him off, as opposed to feeling like you have to make excuses for him.
- You can imagine a future together.
You don’t have to practice writing your first name with his last name, but do you periodically let your mind wander to picture a life together? Is it amazing?
- You’re not afraid to disagree with him.
You know that even if you fight, he’ll listen to you and won’t brush you off. He takes you seriously, even when he thinks you’re wrong.
- You want to work out your major differences
If you do have crucial differences that will impact your future together — different opinions about religion, money or something else — you want to work them out with him, and you believe you can come to a conclusion that will satisfy both of you.
- You laugh together
Laughter is one of life’s simplest pleasures. You should definitely be able to crack each other up.
- You’re incredibly, utterly, surprisingly attracted to him
Physical chemistry is an undeniably important ingredient in a healthy relationship. And if he’s not perfectly fit or your usual “type”? Even more reason to think he’s the one.
- It’s OK to be quiet around him.
You don’t feel like you have to fill the space between you with chatter or other interaction. Instead, you feel an easy comfort.
- You feel like yourself around him.
You don’t feel like you have to edit your thoughts. You’re not self-conscious or anxious; you can just be yourself.
- You need him the right amount.
You long for him, but not too much. Some neediness is good but too much breeds discontent.
- You don’t feel too jealous.
You’re comfortable with him going out with his friends—even female friends. You let each other have your own lives and hobbies.
- You feel like he makes you a better person.
He makes you feel smart, funny, attractive, creative — like the best version of yourself. You feel like he brings out and complements the best parts of you.
- He just gets you.
Sometimes it’s that easy. You feel like he understands some essential part of you that you can’t explain or articulate. It’s a warm, comfortable feeling — and one you should have with the person you marry.